Pet Peeves

I just wanna get it out there that I have certain pet peeves when it comes to guys ... and just people in general. So please, indulge me ... since it is, after all, my blog.

1. I don't like people who would joke about things that are sensitive. No, there is a line, albeit invisible, that divides things that can be joked about and those that cannot. For example, domestic violence. Enough said.
2. In social relationships, be it friends or romantic or whatever, you don't just flatter yourself by assuming that the other party is ready to talk about where the relationship is heading. You involve the other party in the discussion to determine whether they are ready to realize that they are or are not in a relationship and then you talk about the future of the relationship. This is just a simple organization of management. Furthermore, you DON'T confuse the inherent sweetness of a person to be the strong feelings for you that point to a committed relationship (or friendship) that you seek to avoid. Oh, come on. Don't flatter yourself. The nature of a relationship is active participation. Involve the other person. Don't just make assumptions that in the end will only make you look foolish.
3. So it's ok to make the mistake aforementioned (in no. 2) because relationships are just like that ... they are delicate balances, and they tend to tip over easily, especially with lack of experience. It's ok. But after you make that mistake, you might want to, first, realize that you have made a strategic error, and, second, seek counsel or somehow conjure up something to patch things up or at least to talk it over with the other party. I'm sure the other party will greatly appreciate it. But that doesn't mean it's ok to do the whole "Let's call the other person up when I'm half drunk and see if he/she wants to hang out so that we can be friends because I am gracious and open like that". No. The other party is NOT your entertaining monkey and is not -- and should not be -- ok with that.

Oh, just ... take heed.