The Nuanced Art of Being Pissed Off

I had been very pissed off for the past ... oh, who knows how many days.

I can't say that it's all just one thing or another. It's mostly a combination of many things, each thing small. I have a list of the things I was pissed off about, which included the squeaking sound the rocking chair made.

Amongst which also include the stereotypes people put me in, the stereotypical and antiquated concepts that people use to explain who I am, the people that keep telling me that I'm not strong enough or those that mistake my being "timid" as being weak and make a point to "help me," the foolishness that my roommate shows sometimes, the people that can't even do a simple thing such as run a country right -- let alone using proper spelling, punctuation and grammar (!!!) ... to name just a few.

But you know what? Ego and form aside (Eckhart Tolle words), it can be liberating to be pissed off ... just as long as you know you'll come out laughing.

Today, it worked like this for me:
You need to know that it's ok to be pissed off; let it be there.
The worst, really, is when you are pissed off, but you're trying not to be -- an added layer of frustration. Come on, if you're pissed off, mean it. Stop being counter-productive.
Distinguish it from pain -- you're no victim, and right now you're ANGRY, not HURT. (I tend to deal with my pain and my anger more or less separately)
You need to know that you are not obligated to "remedy it" or "turn negative energy into positive," or whatever.
All you need to know is that 1) it feels worse that it really is, and 2) you'll come out of it with gladness in your heart.
List all the things that are bugging you -- down to the squeak of the rocking chair. This puts everything into manageable perspective.
And then, chances are, you'll start to get tired of listing it, and start laughing. That's when you know your anger has run out, and you can start on a blank page again.

You know, life is troublesome. But if nothing else, at least the humor is worth it.

Courtesy: Thank you, everyone. Thank you, Nora, for your care.