After the Fact
The wisdom you gather from each heartbreak is not meant to prevent you from going through the next heartbreak or the one after that.
Instead, it helps you with the more important stuff -- the aftermath.
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Thoughts on lay responses to church sex scandals
14 years ago
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My friend is going through heartbreak. He was just telling me part of the story yesterday. It drained me.
It never really gets any easier. Even though we think to ourselves, "I'll be smarter next time," we still fall all the same, and it still hurts (and we think, "Fall in love? It feels like falling into concrete!").
But we DO get smarter. The more familiar we are with our pain, the better we learn to deal with it. We improve where things end. If we don't appreciate this beginning that came from the end, we'll never realize our strength growing like a tree.
So, I told my friend, "This will sharpen you."
"Yeah, maybe." He chuckled.
I waved my pen and let its weight fall to its tip, pointing it at him, "No, it will. I guarantee it. It will not be now, but look back on it in 5 years."
See, everything with painful significance in my life seems so distant to me now ... like something the desert of life had engulfed after a gust of wind. These things are still there, but they become the exotic, mysterious dunes that give the desert its beauty.
But if you don't have the wisdom enough to keep on going, you'll get caught in that desert storm, and you may not live to see the pretty dunes in hindsight.
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