Less is More; More is Less

Less is more;
More is less.

Example:
Tomato paste is 5 cans for $1. But just because it costs less, doesn't mean you should buy more, since you don't use it often anyway. Beyond a certain threshold, the more of this discounted item you buy, the less value you gain out of it.

Example:
I think, maybe, someone with less depth than me would suit him better. Less is more. And I think, maybe, my depth was too much for him to handle. More is less.

This means my quality and caliber as a person have not a bearing on the outcome of a relationship. His not accepting and appreciating my being a quality person does not realistically reflect badly on either of us. In other words, it's not that he was too stupid to realize that he got lucky. It's that he doesn't know what to do with the gold he struck.

Some people are like that: because they've been stuck in the same environment all their lives, they stop growing their capacity to adjust to higher value. Their value cap is lower than others.

It's a matter of adapting to the other person according to your own capabilities. If you are a "horizontal" type person -- meaning your life is stretched horizontally, but remains at the same level, with no vertical measurement of depth to speak of -- then you're better off finding someone who is like that. These people, some of us would call "shallow". But then again, I think I can't possibly expect everyone to be in-depth, can I? After all, everyone fulfills a different role in a common society. Brian, for instance, as shallow, arrogant and selfish as he is, makes for an entertaining friend (for some), and a very good contruction worker, as he is not looking for depth in his work anyway. Without those of his type, who would be doing construction work for long? Buildings would not get built, HVAC systems would not get fixed, and toilets would be clogged because plumming would not get done. And I appreciated that. Aside from what he is now to me, still I appreciate his simplicity, if nothing else.

But of course, many exceed this prototype. There are those out there who are not necessarily in-depth but are happy with their loved ones who are very in-depth. They try to understand depth (the willingness is more important than understanding the depth), making "more is more".

These people are happy with what they have. If nothing else, they appreciate what they've got. They are willing to adapt. These are the happy ones, the lucky ones. And where do I find them?